I seem to have dropped my people pleasing habit. Altogether.
I call a spade a spade, and don’t engage with anyone who tries to manipulate me or pull me down or add any negativity to my life.
I was the nice girl for a long time. I gave people the benefit of doubt, considered their problems and was kind. But I think, quite a few times, I was just doing it because I wanted them to like me. I didn’t want them to say something hurtful to me, that involved my past. I think I didn’t want them to say ‘she deserved what she got’.
I don’t care anymore. Call it confidence, call it whatever. I know what I deserve, and what people say is irrelevant.
I don’t know where this will take me. But, it’s okay. I know what I am doing, and it’s a choice I’ve made.